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What he really Means

Posted: Sat Jul 31, 2010 7:49 pm
by E_
LMAO Wonder if this makes Julie think of me? - “Men process verbal information better when it’s direct and to the point,”

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What he says: “I am listening!”
...What he means: “I’m listening, but I really don’t want to get into a long, emotional discussion right now.”
Why he says it: When a guy zones out, women generally interpret that to mean he’s shut her off. More likely he’s just overwhelmed. “Men process verbal information better when it’s direct and to the point,” says Haltzman. Scott Borchert agrees. “When I say this, it usually means I just wish she’d get to the point sooner,” he says. One way around this is to ask him for his advice — guys love to fix problems — or to make sure he’s primed for a marathon talk session. So rather than launching right in, say, “This story’s kind of involved — can you listen now or should we talk later?”

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Re: What he really Means

Posted: Sat Jul 31, 2010 8:27 pm
by imaposer
It took nearly six years of fighting and quite a few nights sleeping on the couch before I finally got through to the wife that if she wants me to do something, she has to say it directly, and remind me of it. Don't hint, don't say stuff like it would be nice, don't stare at me blankly and say you should know what.....
Just say it. And usually a couple of times. Life's been much better for both of us when she finally understood I was being dead serious. ;)